How You Can Safely Divorce A Spouse Who Is A Narcissist

While divorce is never easy, there are some circumstances that can make the experience much more difficult. It might be possible that you discovered you married a narcissist, and your marriage might have been one of abuse and neglect. You will find your divorce will not be an easy one, but there are some things to be aware of in order to safely divorce a narcissist.

Look for Obstruction

A narcissist will always make themselves the victim and will not want you to win a divorce case. This is mostly a carry over from how they most likely behaved during your marriage. You will probably have to deal with them trying to obstruct the whole process by having their lawyer file a lot of motions dealing with even the most minor of issues. They will probably request a delay in the proceedings and claim emergencies to get out of court dates. They will drive up the fees and the time involved to go through the proceedings. To cut down the time they will try to take to get through the divorce, have all paperwork in order and make sure your divorce attorney pushes hard to get the proceedings finished.

Don't Negotiate

A narcissist will most likely want to get more out of the divorce than what is fair, saying they deserve it for whatever treatment they deem they have suffered. They may try to lowball you and take more for themselves. Instead of trying to negotiate with them, stand firm in what you are offering or what you want, and don't settle or entertain any offers that are not what you are looking for.

Have Firm Evidence of What You Are Saying

A narcissist will usually try to paint you as the bad guy. They will most likely try to blacken your name and say you were the abuser or that you neglected them during your marriage, even to the point of using your children to do so by saying you mistreated them.

You can counteract this by having firm proof that you were the one working in the marriage and paying all bills— if this was the case. You should get references that you are the parent who takes primary care of the children and that they are well cared for, and if possible, any documentation you can of your spouse's abuse, overspending or lies to prove you are truthful in what you are saying.